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The Deeper Your Roots, The Sweeter Your Fruit

 
Author: Ken Donaldson

Roots and fruit...one of my favorite life philosophies.

I believe we are all very similar to trees in a metaphorical sense. We have our fruit, which are our results. These results are based on our behaviors in that our behaviors, or actions, are what create our results.

We have feelings and emotions, which are like the branches that carry the fruit. It is our emotions (e-motion = energy in motion) that motivates us (or not) into action. We have thoughts, which are carried in the trunk of the tree. Our thoughts trigger or activate our emotions.

And then we have our roots, which is our belief system. Whatever it is that we believe is what feeds the entirety of our being: our thoughts, our emotions, and our behaviors. Therefore, it is our beliefs that most impacts our whole being and our results.

There is an old saying, Whatever you cant see is more powerful than what you can see. This roots and fruit model is the ultimate example of this. You cannot see the root system of a tree, nor can you outwardly see your belief system. Your belief system is buried and until you consciously evaluate and inventory it, you will have no idea of what is impacting your life from the inside. Your beliefs affect your thoughts, your feelings, your behaviors and actions; and in the end, your results.

I have found that there are four primary beliefs that will either empower you or sabotage your success. They are as follows:

  1. I have to perform at a certain level or else I am a failure.

    VS.

    I always do the best that I can and I accept my every outcome with gratitude.

  2. If people dont like me, accept me, or approve of me, I feel like a reject.

    VS.

    I attract and connect with all the people that I need who will accept me as I am.

  3. If I fail I am unworthy of success, abundance, prosperity and love.

    VS.

    I accept my failure and mis-takes as experiments and every one validates my ongoing commitment to living my life fully.

  4. I cant change...This is the way Ive been, this is the way I am, and this is the way I will always be.

    VS.

    I am an agent of change and I live in the possibility of newness every moment of my life.

I believe if you trace back any undesirable behavior or result, you will find one ( or more) of these four beliefs at the root of it. Once you have identified it, you will then have a conscious awareness of what has been driving you and you can make a conscious choice to allow it or not. You can then bombard yourself with your desired beliefs.

You take in information visually, auditorilly, kinesthetically, and spiritually. Use all these information input portals to fill yourself with your desired beliefs.

Write down your desired beliefs on an index card everyday. Repeat them out loud in front of a mirror. Call and leave yourself a message with these beliefs in the message. Say them as mantras as you run, bike, workout, or rollerblade. Visualize yourself living out your desired beliefs in a meditation. Pray a prayer of affirmation acknowledging that God is already instilling these beliefs into your root system and surrounding you with the Golden Light of Love and Protection that keeps these desired beliefs locked in your belief system.

Before you know it, you will be believing your desired beliefs. And that will give you more positive thoughts and emotions, which will create the behaviors and results you ultimately want in your life.

Remember: If you want sweet fruit, take very good care of your roots!

* In a conversation with my good friend, coach extraordinaire, and all-around very cool person, Deborah Roth, she actually came up with this exact phrase, so I have to give her the credit. Visit her very cool websites at www.SpiritedLiving.com and www.SpiritedWomen.net.

Author Bio:

Ken Donaldson

Ken Donaldson, the REALationship Coach, has been based in Tampa Bay, Florida offering counseling, coaching, and educational programs since 1987. He is a licensed mental health counselor; board certified as an addictions professional and clinical hypnotherapist; and certified as a master relationship coach. Ken is a graduate of the University of South Florida, the Institute for Life Coach Training and the Relationship Coaching Institute. He has been exclusively in private practice since 1993.

Ken is the author of the new breakthrough life and relationship success book Marry YourSelf First! Saying ?I Do? to a Life of Passion, Power and Purpose. The material in this book is a result of Donaldson?s 15+ years of clinical counseling and coaching with thousands of individuals and couples. In this book, he reveals what he has discovered as the 20 core Principles of Passion, Power and Purpose. When these principles are applied to your life you can overcome self-limiting patterns and create abundant happiness, fulfillment and success in your life and relationships.

Donaldson?s primary message from this book is to ?Master Your Life and Your Relationships!? Purchasers of this book are eligible for free coaching and educational programs to support and promote optimal growth and success.

Ken founded the REALationship Coaching programs empower people to have more successful lives, businesses and relationships by building a powerful relationship with themselves first.

Included are the monthly Saturday Series workshops and the REAL Talk Forums. These programs are for couples and individuals alike, and help the participants live the most passionate and balanced lives possible.

He also facilitates the Marry YourSelf First program that assists singles to have more successful relationships and more satisfying lives. The graduates of this program leave with a clear vision of who they are, what they want, and how to get it.

In addition, he offers the Partners for Life programs for both pre-committed and committed couples that provide the tools and resources to help couples create relationships that are both lasting and fulfilling. Couples report that they have deeper intimacy and more fun as a result of utilizing the tools from these programs.

Ken also offers education and training programs for businesses and community organizations on a variety of personal growth and business improvement topics.

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