Like enough of the noise awready! Geesh, people

No, Im not talking about the sometimes nearly overwhelming noise pollution that goes hand in hand with living in a big city. Traffic sounds, horns, sirens, airplanes, construction noises. Im not even referring to the eardrum-shattering volume of the concert and bar bands or the door-vibrating music coming from our kids rooms. Not even the irritating boom bass enlarging the size of the cracks on the cars windshield next to us at the stoplight.

Yeah, the noise is bad and it seems like its getting worse. Sometimes I think about the warm, quite summer evenings from my younger days back on the farm when all there was to listen to was the crickets, a few frogs and maybe once in a while a coyote or two howling off in the distance. And I wonder, considering how the db level has skyrocketed over the past several years, why the heck I didnt have the foresight to go into audiology instead of adult education. There are fortunes to be made in that career field. So who knew?

But thats not the kind of noise that concerns me most. The one that really bothers me and makes me wonder just where the heck we humans are headed are the noises that are blasting out of our mouths.

YOU #@*&% IDIOT WHERED YOU LEARN HOW TO DRIVE!!? I WANT TO SEE YOUR MANAGER AND I MEAN NOW!!! WOULD YOU GET YOUR FAT REAR OUTTA THE WAY!!? IF YOU DONT CLEAN UP ALL THE CRAP IN YOUR ROOM, YOUR BUTTS GROUNDED!!! WHERE THE HELL HAVE YOU BEEN!!? JUST WHO THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU ARE!!? DO I LOOK LIKE YOUR #&%@* SLAVE!!? WHERES MY #%&@* KEYS!!?

Whew!

Weve all heard it. On the streets, in the stores, at the ball games, on the playground, next door. And lets admit it. Almost every one of us at one time or another in our lives has let it fly. Unfortunately, for too many of us, this kind of communication this personalized air pollution has become a way of life. Its what we do. Its the way we are. Ive even heard people describe high volume spousal relationships as just their way of communicating and letting off steam.

Houston, we have a problem!

One of the problems of course, is that as our volume increases the quality of our communications slides right into the crapper. Most folks normally react to shouting by implementing their most comfortable defensive action which is usually shouting right back. It becomes a loud contest. For sure, nobodys listening.

And if that werent bad enough, its unfortunately fairly common for this type of confrontation to deteriorate even further into physical altercations with frequently disastrous results. First we say it, then we do it. Grabbing, slapping, punching, pushing The self control has vaporized and we revert to our basic animal instincts.

Yeah, we could overcome some of these tendencies by applying one of the common anger management techniques. Back off, cool off and give ourselves some time to re-evaluate the situation and circumstances that led up to the shouting match. It can help. But its not the permanent solution.

And no, I realize that theres not much we can do about society. Theres not much we can do about all the pressures we experience just by living in these times. The pressures that tend to fertilize our aggravations and worries and our tendencies to relieve this stress by spoutin off. And we cant change the fact that we perhaps grew up in a confrontational, loud household and therefore have become programmed to act and react just like our parents did.

If we really want to though, we can change ourselves. If were tired of the shouting or at least not thoroughly convinced that this is the best way to go through life, we can do something about it. We can change our immediate environment our personal world into a place thats a lot more comfortable to live in.

Just the realization that we dont need to live this way any longer if we dont want to is a major step in the right direction. But where do we go from there? If confrontational shouting is a life-limiting factor, the next step could be to seek professional help. A lifestyle filled with verbal, mental, emotional and physical abuse is not something we can move away from without assistance from trained helpers. There are plenty of people, organizations and support groups that are readily available to help us work our way out of our personal battlefield.

Beyond that, there are things we need to learn and experience. Part of it, I would suggest, is using the foundation concepts of personal development and self-help to gain a better understanding of our thought processes and learn the steps we can take to modify our mental/emotional programming so that we can move on to more peaceful (and productive) thinking techniques. Again, there is plenty of help and information immediately available to assist in this process on the Web, in countless books and articles, tapes, CDs and seminars and in our local communities. All it takes is just a little bit of effort to identify these resources. Start with the information contained in this site and in our books if you wish, then take it from there to find your own personal best path to a quieter lifestyle.

I would suggest too, that to complement our attempts to upgrade our thought processes, that we seriously (or light-heartedly might even work better) consider looking into connecting with our spiritual selves and whatever/whoever we consider as our spiritual leader or master teacher. Finding our own personal spiritual path or belief system can help build a solid foundation for whatever we feel we want our life to become. Its an important ingredient that is all too frequently overlooked in the developmental process. But believe me, it can make the journey one heck of a lot easier.

Where we go from here now is of course, up to each one of us individually. We can maintain and feed our chaotic, high volume lifestyle or we can put forth just a little effort to start the transition to a more peaceful, productive, enjoyable environment. For sure, if you happen to be one of my acquaintances or next door neighbors, Id really appreciate it if youd at least try! Please?