Are you a nice guy? Do you find dating to be a challenge because girls think of you as a friend or a brother? Do you wonder why all the women you want, seem to go out with guys who are thought of as "bad boys?" If you answered yes to any of the above, you might ask yourself, what exactly do those bad boys have that you don't have? For starters, they are probably confident. Confidence can make you very attractive, and you don't have to act like a bad boy to have it and show it. Here are some of the qualities that a nice guy can adopt that will make you more compelling to women and you won't have to compromise any of your values. The way to confidence for a nice guy is through some of the following: Accomplishment What are you good at? Find your skill or your talents and shine them up. Nothing is as attractive as an accomplished person. Finding this talent is not meant to be difficult. There is something that you are naturally gifted at that you probably take for granted. What do you do in your spare time? What do people come to you for? What comes easy to you but other people might find it hard if not impossible? Somewhere in the answer to those questions you may find what you can be proud of. Finances Ahhh...here is the tricky one for most men. It is true that women are attracted to rich men, but more than that, they love guys with a sense of humor, a deep set of values, and a great, promising career. When you add that to the basic attitude of confidence, it is unbeatable. If your finances are meager, don't try and hide the fact that you must live on a budget. But can you be inventive with your ideas for dates? Women love a sense of mystery and imagination. Humor If you can see the funny bone in most situations, and you have the above qualities, you are irresistible. If you find that you laugh very little during your day, it is advisable that you find some movies you consider funny and watch those, along with TV shows that make you smile. Turn off the depressing news and lighten up by watching some humor. Career If you have a great career, or if you are taking the action steps to attain one, you will be attractive to women. If you are confused and don't know what to do with your life, get yourself a coach or guidance counselor, get some job training, and get busy. When you are doing what you love to do; when you can take care of yourself financially; and when you have a plan for your future and you are implementing it, you will be the kind of guy women are looking for. Looking good You need to look good and smell good. Women like clean nails and hair; suits, slacks and shirts rather than jeans and Tees; and women love good shoes. It's one of the first things they notice. Have a plan for getting to the gym at least 5 times a week or another work out schedule that keeps you in shape. Pull your spaces together Is your living environment a pig sty? Does your car look like a trash can? It's time to clean it up, organize your things, and make a space for the woman of your dreams. You can't meet someone until you've room for her. You get to keep being a nice guy. You are just going to be a nice guy with confidence. If you do the above, you will feel terrific and you will become attractive to women. Nice guys don't have to finish last. |
