Although love-making is a vital part of matrimony, often society places so much value on everything sexual that other key elements for marital bliss fade into the background. And so women are led to believe that the only thing that will keep their man happy is creativity under the covers. But studies show that men these days are seeking much more than a quick roll in the sack, and I personally know a few women who willingly tried everything in bed, and still got dumped because the hubby found someone who added an extra ingredient. - Get your timing right. Women often complain that men dont listen, but I can assure you that if you pick the right time, your husband will be happy to pay attention to what you have to say. Dont try to engage him in a conversation as soon as he walks through the door after work. When hes sitting in front of the TV or reading the paper are not good alternatives either. Because nobody should know your husband as well as you do, study his routine and choose a moment where youll be sure to have his undivided interest. - Listen to him. Everybody knows that its always best to teach by example. So your husband doesnt listen to a word you say? Then show him how its done. Although its true that a lot of men arent great conversationalists, most will be happy to talk about the things theyre passionate about. When he opens up, listen actively and try to remember what he had to say. - Become interested in his dreams. Almost everybody dreams of making it big, but very few are able to do it. According to experts, your network of family and friends can either be the wind beneath your wings or the rain on your parade. Even if your husbands dreams seem unrealistic, theyre his and hes entitled to them. Avoid criticizing and making fun of his plans. Instead, offer words of support. After all, youre going to want to be a part of his life when he finally strikes it rich! - Remember that men thrive on admiration. Women expect the men in their lives to praise them on their looks, cooking skills, sexual prowess, and just about everything else. In fact, I know a couple of women who get offended if the husband and the kids dont show some admiration at least once a day. But we often forget that men need to hear some words of appreciation just as often as we do. Remind him of all the features of his personality that made you fall in love with him. - Show respect. Men need to feel respected by the people in his surroundings, and especially by his wife and children. He needs to feel that he is acknowledged as the head of his household. In this age of political correctness, this is not a popular message at all. But that acknowledgment doesnt demand servitude or blind discipleship. However, just like a corporation is run by a board of directives with only one chairperson, a marriage has a head. The chairperson doesnt make all the decisions, the board works together as a team. In short, be creative when it comes to figuring out the platonic part of your relationship. Its definitely worth it. |
